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try too hard to be feminine. Women are really more like men than you think if you'll watch them with this idea in mind. Don't sway your hips or make super-feminine, exaggerated gestures, real ladies don't and it's a sure way to attract attention. Walk nat- urally without trying, high heels will usually moderate your stride sufficiently--you can't put your heel down first and roll over onto the ball of the foot or you will break off the heel. Don't let your arms swing straight from the shoulder, keep them rotated a little to the outside so they will swing past the hips properly. Learn to carry a bag gracefully in the hand or over the arm and if gloves are carried too, hold them gracefully not tightly.

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3. ▲bove all, don't feel guilty, ashamed, fearful and feel that everyone is looking at you, In the first place, others are too busy with their own problems to give a second thought to you unless you appear or act in some unusual way, One or two less than opt- imum appearances or actions will attract no attention (unles8 01- treme) but when 3 or 4 or 5 begin to be evident people look more intently and then will probably see even more inconsistencies. member that a skirt, high heels, jewelry, makeup, etc. simply mean "female" to a passerby. He or she cannot afford, for reasons of their own, personal, internal adjustment, to question the sex of each apparent female they pass. So stay within the rather wide boundaries of appearance and performance in which women operate, and there will be no questions--exceed these boundaries and you will draw attention, as any woman would, and such attention means closer inspection and possible detection. You might take as a motto--"Strive for Perfection--it avoids Inspection and prevents Detection".

Another aspect of guilty and fearful feelings is that you un- consciously project them to others in mannerisms, voice inflections, eye movements, eto. The other person, detecting this, even though sub-consciously, begins to look more closely to find out what's eating you and this will only make you more nervous. The thing to do is brazen the situation out. If you are stared at, stare back, don't turn and run, a woman wouldn't would she? If you are spoken to uninvited, speak back, don't choke up. You can speak hoarsly and pretend laryngitis if your voice is deep. In short, you must act as a woman would act under any given circumstance--to do other- wise only leads to trouble. Really, people don't care what you are